Are you married me too

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We use cookies and other tracking technologies to improve your browsing experience on our site, show personalized content and targetedanalyze site traffic, and understand where our audiences come from. To learn more or opt-out, read our Cookie Policy. I spared him and the therapist that detail. It was his standard reaction to my complaints about the sad state of our marriage, his way of training me to see my needs — emotional connection and communication — as excessive, and his primarily sex as entirely reasonable.

I had dragged us to couples counseling because I could no longer live in the vacuum left behind after the emotional intimacy had seeped out of our marriage. But the thing I need is easy and quick.

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I acquiesced. I bargained my way out of sex as often as I could. I gloried in being sick enough to have the right to refuse. I did not let him kiss me for the last several years of our marriage. This satisfied him. Submitting to sex with a man who knew it was unwanted, who knew I felt deep pain at our lack of emotional connection, and who knew — who had been clearly told — that it felt like a violation, broke something in me. Knowing that he could still enjoy and feel emotionally fulfilled by that unwanted sex shattered my idea of our marriage.

I felt like a sex doll. I felt unselfed. But I blamed myself.

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When multiple couples therapists over several years made no ificant impact, I blamed myself again: I should have been more forceful when I said my dark truth. Only 15 years later, as I witness so much outrage on the behalf of women who have been shamed, coerced, and bullied into sex in so many other contexts, do I wonder: How could my husband listen to me say what I said — even once, even timidly — and sleep well that night, much less continue to insist on sleeping with me?

Marital rape was legal everywhere in the US until the mids and was not outlawed in all 50 states until the s. Even today, it is not prosecuted as harshly as rape outside marriage. In that context, my acquiescence begins to make sense — even though my educational and professional background ensured I knew, intellectually, I was entitled to refuse sex.

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I am a humanities professor who teaches feminist theory, models feminist behavior for my students and my own children, and has achieved success in a male-dominated field. And yet for years I submitted to unwanted sex from my husband, leaving me sexually traumatized long after I ended that marriage.

All the feminist texts I had read could not drown out what I had absorbed from society and popular culture: that it was my duty to satisfy my husband, regardless of my own feelings. The majority of sexual encounters in America take place in marriage.

Half of adults in America are married, and married or cohabiting people have sex twice as often as single people. The questions about what constitutes consent and assault raised by the Babe. Should he assume your body is perpetually available to him for sex? Leaving a marriage is much harder than calling an Uber. It requires breaking up a family, and deciding that avoiding unwanted sex is worth giving up half the time you would have spent with your.

It means financial turmoil from which you might never fully recover. If you have kids, it may mean incurring the wrath of the person with whom you will be required to co-parent for decades, and so it also may mean losing his family, whom you love but who will no longer love you because you have hurt their darling boy. How do you assert your agency when its price is the pain of others? The issue at hand is not about Aziz Ansari, or about any one man. The institution of marriage provides a prefab version of the setting West describes.

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